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Post by mike on Nov 17, 2018 9:47:51 GMT -6
Last night my step son, Dylan thought it may be a better choice to end his life rather than continue. Fortunately (with knife in hand) he did not as he contacted his girlfriend and she was able to talk some sense to him. This event did land him in the hospital and though they are about to release him momentarily, this is clearly not the end of this issue only the beginning.
He was drinking but the issue is clearly deeper than a few beers. His father regularly berates him telling him how worthless, useless and lazy he is. This was the trigger for yesterday.
Sin is pleasurable for but a season (Heb 11:25) - his choice to live in that environment rather than here was based on sin. He wouldn't accept that the girlfriend couldn't sleep in bed with him in our home, so he left 6 months ago to go live in his father's home.
Please pray for him, my wife and me. For him to realize that Jesus came for him and how greatly he loves each of us. My wife for the wisdom to know what to say to her son, and for me to speak the Words of Life into this situation.
Lord please turn this evil for your glory! Use me as an oracle please.
Please pray for us. Thank you
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Post by sawdy on Nov 17, 2018 11:09:03 GMT -6
Dear Mike,
I know it is hard for you to share personal publicly, so I wanted to be sure to acknowledge that challenge by commenting rather than just a like.
The enemy is working extra hard right now and we need to be vigilant to keep watch on where God is calling us to encourage or minister.
I pray that this situation is able to open doors to dialogue for your family. I am grateful that this situation hasn't ended in tragedy and that you and your family didn't receive a phone call saying the ultimate bad news.
I pray that whatever walls stand in the way of sharing about salvation are torn down. I pray that if fences were erected that the gates become open. I pray that a bridge to connect you and your wife to your step-son is made wide and easy to travel across.
I pray that God gives you the words to speak encouragement to your wife. I pray that God is able to make you into the oracle that you have requested to be in this situation.
He hears our prayers and is willing to use us if we are willing to let him use us. I am grateful that your spirit is willing to be used in this situation.
God Bless... 🙏
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Post by gkp on Nov 17, 2018 11:31:07 GMT -6
Yes Mike, you and everyone you mentioned will be in our prayers. Every family I know has problems these days. May God use you and bless you my friend.
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Post by mike on Nov 17, 2018 11:50:31 GMT -6
Thank you dear sister sawdy. Your words made my eyes sweat a bit, i appreciate you and your long time faithfulness in our community. You are a blessing. |
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Post by mike on Nov 17, 2018 11:51:29 GMT -6
Yes Mike, you and everyone you mentioned will be in our prayers. Every family I know has problems these days. May God use you and bless you my friend. Thank you my brother! It is true that most families are battling. I am glad to have you in my corner on the winning team |
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Post by boraddict on Nov 17, 2018 12:04:03 GMT -6
Mike, I am right there with you in this. My daughter (14) claims that she is an adult and as such she can make adult decisions like dating. Unbeknownst to me she decided to begin dating another child  , and I have to laugh at this point because she thinks seeing him at school is dating. So I calmly talked to her and explained the two roads that we were going down. The first road was mine, and the second road was hers. However, when she diverts from my road then there is going to be problems. And I reminded her of a great scene in the movie "Unforgiven" where Gene Hackman as the sheriff informs his prisoner that he was not going to be "nice like before" when he beat him nearly to death. I informed my daughter that I had not begun to be nice and at this point and was just trying to avoid going down "that" road. But I could see the future and we were going to go down "that road" and I was going to be "nice" like the sheriff in the movie. Because, I went down that road with her older brother and asked her to remember my niceness in our home at that time and that we were returning to that in our home if she continued to divert from my road. She took our conversation to her "man" and explained to him that dating was off for now. Your step son is older and the fix is so much more difficult. I am praying for you. In my daughters case I can still give her the fear of the departure from peace between us and that works for now. |
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Post by mike on Nov 17, 2018 14:46:55 GMT -6
Thank you BORA! You know what and how to pray in this instance so I am grateful for your experiences and trust the Lord will work this for His glory in my situation and yours
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Post by mike on Nov 17, 2018 15:11:51 GMT -6
The power of prayer
He is going to move back with my wife and me. The father agrees that is best.
Keep praying
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Post by hopeful on Nov 17, 2018 19:12:10 GMT -6
Will definitely be keeping you all in prayer, Mike.
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Post by Gary on Nov 17, 2018 19:26:50 GMT -6
Mike, I'm lifting up prayers right now for you, your family, and your stepson Dylan. I'm sure it has been hard to stand your ground on those godly boundaries, but it sounds like you are doing well. Hold fast, brother.
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Post by yardstick on Nov 17, 2018 19:38:42 GMT -6
Thank you dear sister sawdy . Your words made my eyes sweat a bit, i appreciate you and your long time faithfulness in our community. You are a blessing. I hope everything works out to the glory of God, and that you, your wife and step-son find peace, mike. Oh... and i hope you put deodorant on your eyes. No one likes stinky eyes. js. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 18, 2018 1:00:35 GMT -6
Dear mike, I want you to know, that you and your family and the whole situation are in my prayers. Nearly all christians I know, are facing trouble and problems. But in the end His glory will prevail. May God bless you, your stepson and use this situation for showing His majesty and grace to all of you. |
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Post by Natalie on Nov 18, 2018 16:28:09 GMT -6
Will continue to pray for you and your family.
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Post by mike on Jun 2, 2020 12:09:01 GMT -6
I wanted to take time to update you with some powerful results and answers to the prayers we made for Dylan! I wont go into all of the minutiae, so long story short I have had several productive discussions with Dylan over the last year+ Over that time he decided to start going to school and although I am not completely in favor quite recently (January or so) started taking medication to help with his anxiety. A wise decision was to quit drinking while taking the meds...
A few weeks ago my wife said "Dylan has been listening to the bible" WOW! I was like thats great news. Last night he called my wife and after a few minutes she put him on speaker phone - he was very upset about the rioting. The three of us talked for about an hour. His eyes are opening. He's realizing the disorder of things, and the Savior is the solution. Praise God - please remember to pray that the seed takes root! Matt 13:23
EDIT - I left out another piece. Though he had come back to live here, his schooling decision took him from here out to Pittsburgh to live in sin with the girl. When she finished school he decided to live with her and her parents in PA (about an hour from us). He has since been locked down with them. They are atheists, and extremely liberal in their thinking. But again praise God He can reach you wherever you are!
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Post by Gary on Jun 2, 2020 13:18:00 GMT -6
Oh man!! PRAISE GOD!!!!!!
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, and I have to laugh at this point because she thinks seeing him at school is dating. So I calmly talked to her and explained the two roads that we were going down. The first road was mine, and the second road was hers. However, when she diverts from my road then there is going to be problems. And I reminded her of a great scene in the movie "Unforgiven" where Gene Hackman as the sheriff informs his prisoner that he was not going to be "nice like before" when he beat him nearly to death. I informed my daughter that I had not begun to be nice and at this point and was just trying to avoid going down "that" road. But I could see the future and we were going to go down "that road" and I was going to be "nice" like the sheriff in the movie. Because, I went down that road with her older brother and asked her to remember my niceness in our home at that time and that we were returning to that in our home if she continued to divert from my road. She took our conversation to her "man" and explained to him that dating was off for now. Your step son is older and the fix is so much more difficult. I am praying for you. In my daughters case I can still give her the fear of the departure from peace between us and that works for now. 
